“I can do this.” “We’ve got this.” “I’ve got these kids under control.” Ever heard any of those? Ever said any of those? I am always amazed at the moms I run into that say those very things; thinking they themselves can do this whole parenting thing alone. Parenting in total isolation.
I learned very early on, through the counsel of my very wise mentor, that Todd and I cannot do this parenting thing “alone.” We need a village, a mom posse, or what I’ve come to call my “12.”
In Matthew 4 we see the story unfold as Jesus calls his disciples. His 12.
One definition of disciple I found was one who embraces or assists. He was looking for men who would embrace and assist him on his earthly ministry.
Now, I’m sure we would all agree that he didn’t “need” his 12. He could have fulfilled all God called him to do on this earth by himself. Yet, he called out 12 men to help assist him, to learn from him, to continue his mission, and to pray for him. He didn’t do it alone.
There are many pictures of this throughout scripture. In Genesis 12, we see Abraham leaving to go to Canaan WITH his family. In Acts 13, we see Paul, Barnabas and John Mark sent by the Holy Spirit to Cypruss.
And then there is my favorite example of this value for “12″ which is found in Exodus chapter 17. Moses has commanded Joshua to go fight the army of Amalek. Moses, Aaron, and Hur would go and pray. Moses would hold the rod of God up. When he held the rod up, God gave them victory. As you could imagine Moses’ hands became tired, so Aaron and Hur would hold his hands up for him. What a beautiful example of the importance of surrounding yourself with “12.”
Now maybe your saying, “I don’t have a 12″. I bet if you look around you could spot a few that could be part of your team. Maybe it’s a grandmother. Maybe your church body, a pastor’s wife, or a mom who is a little farther ahead in her mothering journey. They are out there. Prayerfully seek them out. 12 people who won’t always tell you what you want to hear, but be willing to speak the truth in love if necessary.
One of my 12 has a son that has been battling her on this whole Instagram thing. She feels very strongly as to why she won’t allow him to have an account. She has reached out to her 12 to help hold her hands up during this long battle.
Part of my 12 is a group of moms who meet around my table every Thursday to walk through this motherhood journey together. Another portion is a library full of Christ centered books. And my church is a huge part of my 12.
The bible says in Proverbs 1:5 “A wise man will hear and increase in learning, And a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel.”
We need counsel in our motherhood journey. I don’t think any of us can say “we got this!” Find you a mom posse. Find your very own “12″.